Giving birth the way you want, Why is it so difficult?!
Here I am once again wanting the birth I have always dreamed of but why is it so difficult to get this right! It seems women are so restricted these days on how they can give birth except if they want a c-section. There is a serious lack of honest support for women as far as birthing methods are concerned. I feel like I basically had to go to the end of the earth and back and spend extra money, just to get it right for a chance of having the baby come out of my vagina instead of pulled out via c-section.
My first pregnancy I had no clue what the hell I was doing as far as birth and pregnancy was concerned but I did for sure in my mind know that I wanted this baby to come naturally with a vaginal birth and not a c-section. Guess what?! I ended up with a c-section, when it came down to birthing time it seemed my baby didn’t want to come out. Looking back now, with all I have learnt over the years, I now realize that wasn’t necessarily true and If I had had the proper help I would probably have been able to birth naturally the way I wanted. My daughter was born healthy and there were no complications so I am very grateful, but it was not the birth we had dreamed of. Do not get me wrong here, there is nothing wrong at all with a c-section if that is what you want.
Now I am pregnant for the second time and faced with even more problems this time with trying for my vaginal birth. I first had my gynecologist tell me how it was totally not gonna happen and very beyond dangerous to attempt birthing vaginally after I had had a c-section, he quoted all kinds of horrible sounding statistics and basically made it sound like I was going to tear open and bleed to death or my baby would die. I was told that he wouldn’t help me with the birth if that was my plan and that I would struggle to find a Dr in my town that would. Luckily I had done my research before the appointment and knew that this was not the case but still he was my gyne and we all know how hard it is to move to a new one!
I had to travel all the way to the next little town to go find myself a supportive gynecologist that was willing to help me with my vbac birth (vbac= vaginal birth after c-section). When we arrived and spoke to this gyne it was like a day and night difference, I was literally speechless when I walked out there, thank god my husband was with or he would probably not have believed the difference in opinion. This wonderful and supportive gyne agreed that it was very possible to have a successful vbac and that the statistics for something actually going wrong are so so very low and this paired with the fact that it is in hospital and you are monitored for any possible problems makes it completely safe! I walked out there feeling positive, happy and empowered! Exactly how I would imagine feeling about the birth to come.
If I had not done my research before hand I would probably have gone with what the first Dr said and just booked a c-section and just dealt with feeling disappointed again, because in all honesty if you didn’t know the facts he would basically have scared the hell out of you.
So I have now planned my vbac birth and found my gyne and a wonderful midwife to help me! I would love to hear if you had a problem or had to jump through hoops to birth the way you wanted? Are you also thinking about having a Vbac birth? leave a comment bellow and please share this post with your friends so we can get an idea of how many women have had this problem