I had a very scary parenting moment on Sunday evening. One that literally put me in shock. We all have bad parenting moments now and then and mommy nerves and worrying about our kids is a constant and sometimes exhausting thing! It can feel like the whole weight of the world is on your shoulders and you are so vulnerable emotionally because you love your children so much. This is a long post but stick with me because there is something important we can learn from this.
On Sunday evening I had a bath and hubby brought little Violet to me so she could bath with me like we always do, this gives us a great opportunity for skin to skin contact and a chance to bond while bathing her. Hubby then takes her from me and I hop out the bath to go dress her quickly before she gets too cold.
Violet does not like being naked, she cries from getting out the bath till the moment she is fully dressed and she does this every time we bath her, I have just come to accept it and dress her as fast as I can so I can soothe and calm her again. I pick her up between items of clothing to pop her onto the nipple a bit and calm her before dressing further so that it does not turn into a complete hysterical screaming story.
This time she cried her self into such a fit that she actually lost her breath! She stopped breathing while I was dressing her and It was horrible. I watched her little face trying to take a breath and then I realized what was happening when I saw the panic on her face, she had upset her self so much that she just couldn’t take a breath. I quickly in a panic picked her up and rubbed her back and gave her a few pats, this did not seem to be helping!!!! I completely freaked out, blew in her face and turned her over to pat her bum but nothing seemed to be helping. She was making strange noises and gasping for air.
This all just happened to be at the exact time that my hubby had left to go buy milk so I was also alone at home, luckily my dad lives in out granny flat in the back yard so I quickly picked Violet up and ran outside to go look for help. When I got outside it must have been the cold air that scared Violet into taking a breath again and by the time I reached my dad she was fine but very upset.
I have read that children do this, that baby’s upset them selves and temporarily can not catch their breath. Have you had this happen to you? I was so paranoid afterwards that when my husband got home from the shop I was crying I had gotten such a fright. I was now convinced there was something wrong with Violet and I proceeded to not sleep that night because I was paranoid she was going to stop breathing in her sleep.
Violet is fine and back to her usual crying. But I have walked away from all of this with a important thought. I was lucky Violet is actually fine and was just having a little baby panic attack, but it was enough of a kak experience to have me traumatized and freaked out.
What do you do when your child stops breathing? Do you have a plan in place, are you going to jump in your car and drive to the hospital or call and ambulance? In my mind neither of these would happen fast enough to help so this basically boils down to us educating our selves with the basics of baby and child first aid. I was alone at home with no car when this happened and had no one to help hold baby or phone for help.
So just a thought moms, maybe it is a good thing to think about educating our selves more? and putting a proper plan into place for when something does go wrong.
Let me know what your thoughts on this are.