This morning I woke up angry at the internet, angry at the online mommy village that has divided us. This is not an anti-vax post but neither is it a pro-vax one. I have been sitting watching and reading different posts from different pages and groups and mothers that are all just trying to do what is best for their children.
And do you know what I have seen?! A whole bunch or swearing, rudeness, name calling and arguing. It has made me so so sad. Sad that in my search for information I have come across hatred and harshness that silenced my inner voice because I was too scared to speak up and ask questions for fear of being judged and looked down upon. I was too scared to ask fellow mothers questions, questions like why did you vaccinate, do you know what ingredients those vaccinations have, how did your child feel after the shots versus how mine felt. My heart is sore because I needed to ask these questions to make my mind up and feel like I have made the right choice.
The one comment I saw that really hit a spot was someone saying that “That parent should have their child taken away” , WTF people!!!! Do you stop and think before you say things? I must also mention that this comment I have seen come from BOTH sides of this vaccinations debate. Maybe it is just a sensitive topic for me now because of the poor baby in Durban that is missing, but I can not imagine any mother having her child taken,the bond between mother and child should not be broken. So lets stop for a second and just imagine this, imagine having your little baby taken away from you! Then this moves on to comments like “I hope that person’s child gets sick so they can see what it is like” AGAIN from both side. Why are we wishing such terrible angry things on each other.
It takes a village to raise a child, but if the villagers are busy throwing rocks and evil words at each other then what will they ever learn from each other? Would you listen to what someone was saying to you if they include “I hoping your child gets sick” into the conversation, NO YOU WOULDNT! So why are we trying to scare people into listening to the side of the story that we believe in.
These are the options I see:
Oh shit fuck, I better run and vaccinate my child or we will not be accepted into the community, will be refused medical care and education and we will have no support or friends. . Sounds fabulous. OR I better not vaccinate my poor child because she will be damaged for life, these vaccinations are so toxic. And in the middle of these options I see a bunch of very horrible comments. I can not learn from that, its sad. All I walked away with was fear and confusion.
I know we are all just trying to prove our point and stand up for what we believe in but can we not do it in a better way, in a way that involves a village coming together to share information and debate and then not throwing hate on each other for the final decision we make. We will never all agree on the same thing. I believe that every mother deserves the right to learn about vaccinations, to read up about it, understand how it works and what the Ingredients are and feel safe with her final decision.
I have this debate going on in my home and all around me, My husband was never vaccinated, neither are his brothers and sister. Yet I am vaccinated,You don’t see me hating my husband. My best friend as well as a few other close friends do not vaccinate, I still love them.
So please just stop, take time to think of what you type on the internet because you could be hurting the person on the other side of the screen and I promise they will learn nothing from you if you are being rude or threatening or calling them stupid. Speak kindly and slowly, debate nicely and share information so we can all learn and do what we are ALL trying to do.. Be the best mother we can be!
And a big thank you to the people out there that are teaching and being kind and welcoming to new mothers trying to learn. There are so many wonderful people out there.
Regardless of which side of the debate you are on, do it with kindness.